The Stepford Wives: Part Three ©

The boys think we can break in and get her out without raising any suspicion from the guards.
I think they are more interested in hitting the drug cabinet than helping me through this little scheme that could get us all in trouble but this is only Plan C even though they think it should be Plan A.

A week after the call from across the pond I had a talk with my friend.
We had a long talk where I told her something I had said to someone once before in a dark parking lot years earlier.
No one should leave someone for someone else.
No one should ever take someone else to keep, from someone else.
I told my friend that she had valid reasons to leave her partner if she so chose or she could sit down and read the riot act to him before she left.
Your resolve should come from the heart and not to be tainted by someone else’s words or your desires for something different.

I have asked many women contemplating leaving their husbands if they love them and have found that most love their husbands but hate the way they are being treated and opt to have affairs before leaving them for someone they met.
And it’s not only women, men to fall into the spell of someone else’s affection.
I don’t care who you are; if life sucks at home you will welcome someone else’s attention eventually.
You are beaten emotionally and vulnerable to anyone who makes your heart skip a beat but the fall is hard and painfully without a cure.

A person looking for some action doesn’t give a fuck what your life is like at home.
They just want you to spread them for a dip or a ride, then you got to go home, to hell once more and curl up in bed with that person you are married to.
Then you fuck that person so they don’t become suspicious but your head is elsewhere so you die a little inside.
You REALLY don’t want to be there because of what you did, some of it is shame and some the desire for more.
While you’re going mad at home where you don’t want to be, the guy or gal has showered and gone out to have some fun and who knows, they might bring someone home after.
They don’t have to answer to anyone.
Not even you.

Not everyone is like this of course.
I know there are some people who are sincere and fall into the love trap.
Many a single person has ended up with a married one by mistake or deception only to find out when it’s too late.

Living the bachelor life looks great to someone drowning emotionally.
Walking into my life and lifestyle is exciting at times to the outsider who doesn’t go out to have fun any more unless it’s some kids birthday party but I don’t have the responsibilities many people have.
I can afford to party every day and stay up until all hours of the night then wake up at noon.
It doesn’t mean I do any less than any other person but I have no one to answer to and do as I please, something many others wish they could.
I could fuck anyone I want and not have to worry about getting caught by my partner.
I only have one person to think about and that’s me.

It wasn’t always like this.
I spent 17 years with one woman and 9 with another.
It’s a lot of fucken work and anyone who says different lies like a dirty rug.
When you are couple you have to multiply everything by three.
You have a responsibility to yourself, one to your partner and to your relationship, then add one more for each kid that you have.
I just got the cat and a bunch of fucken plants to worry about now.

Something has to give and it’s usually the relationship because when to much falls on your shoulders, self-preservation takes over and this causes neglect to everything else.
Depression sets in and you’re struggling to stay sane.
You find yourself seeing doctors and being prescribed medication that you never needed before to make you a docile participant in your life.
There are more housewives suffering from depression today than there ever was.
15% of the worse cases kill themselves, usually with their meds.

Taking drugs isn’t going to make matters better.
The source of the depression has to be addressed and that’s the problems that are eating away at you at home.
If your partner doesn’t want to talk about it them make them.
Threaten them if you have to with you whole arsenal and if that doesn’t work then leave them because of that and NOT because of someone else.
That someone else only complicates the situation and if they are not sincere, well then, how fucked are you going to be if you have to go crawling back?
How will your self-esteemed hold up to that fucken BS?
If you thought life was bad before just imagine how it will be after you are taken back.
If you leave, you leave for good so make sure you leave for the right fucken reason not because someone fucked your ass so well that you love him now.
That’s lust not love and if you’re not careful your ass will really be fucked.

When she stopped crying I told her that I would always be in her life in one form or another and she had nothing to worry about because there was no one who could make me say anything about us.
I told her I would call even her a liar if confronted in public.
It wasn’t an easy time.
She took it hard and two days before Christmas things went bad at home and she came looking for me but I wasn’t home.
She took a bottle of her meds and threw herself into the river but the ice was too thick.

Things got worse before they got better.
Over the next year we talked on the phone when she needed to talk to someone.
We couldn't be in the same room together, we were just plain dangerous in the same room and you could feel the sexual tension all over the place so we just keep things to the phone now especially after the pool table incident at the pub.

There were a couple of slips on her part when she showed up at my door asking for a kiss but that’s all.
I would be lying if I said I didn’t care for her and if things were different life would be different for the two of is but it’s not and it is what it is.
Some things are just not worth messing up for others to be happy.

Over the last few years things have gotten better at home except for the part where she isn’t left alone by herself over night any more just incase shoe tries to off herself again, she promised me she wouldn’t.
She would call me almost daily and she’d tell me what was going on.
I got her to introduce some of the stuff we did together to her husband hoping to put a little spark into their bedroom.

In the beginning she said it was fun and he was eager but then began getting suspicious about where she learned all of these new things she was doing to him and asking for.
I told her to go get a book about sex and show it to him.
She got one called Sex Starved Marriage that she said she enjoyed reading and that gave him a little assurance of her fidelity.

She had a new shrink she had been seeing for the last 7 years and said he thought everything was going good until I got a phone call a week ago.
She was in a panic, frantically trying to say something to me on the phone but couldn’t because her husband just drove up the lane way and she hung up.

I waited for a week not knowing what to do.
I could call, he knows me and I could come up with some excuse like my BBQ invitation but I don’t know if I could keep a clear voice if I probe for answers.

Even though we have not been together for 6 years and I have moved on I care a lot for her and I don’t leave a friend stranded if I can help it.
Don’t get me wrong, I won’t let myself be abused by people trying to take advantage of me but she never asked anything of me other than to take her from the life she was running away from and I said no.

Some people may not understand me when I say I still love everyone I said I love you to.
I never want to see them again for a multitude of reasons but love you don’t take out oif your pocket and flush down the drain.
Those feeling burn into your soul.
I have helped some of my Exs without them knowing.
Less complicated that way without having anything more read into it that what it is and that’s doing what’s right because it’s right.

My friends think I’m nuts but they’re full of shit because I have seen them curse their Exs and then beat the shit out of someone for calling her a whore.
They figure they earned the right to call her that and no one else.

Plan A kicked in and I got news.
Don’t ask what Plan A was but I didn’t break any laws.
She called me and told me what happened.
She was scared for many reasons and with good cause.

It all started when she noticed she was forgetting things and began getting more and more anxious with things that were minor.
She called her shrink but he wasn’t answering.
This went on for about a month and her body was showing signs of fatigue for no apparent reason.
More calls went unanswered to her shrink before she headed off to her GP for some help.

The GP looked into her history and the meds she was taking and was left dumbfounded why the shrink had prescribed the meds she was taking and set out to talk to the shrink.
In the mean time she sent my friend to get a cat scan done with some blood work.
After a week she learned that the shrink, he fell off of the face of the earth.
His license has been suspended pending an investigation.
It seems that he went nuts himself a long time ago but no one stopped him from practicing in his field and prescribing medication.
Imagine, a crazy person diagnosing you and giving you drugs to take.

The tests show that my friends brain is fried and she is now locked up in a mental institution preparing to go through a three month detox procedure to clean her system of all the lethal drug cocktail she was told to take to make her feel better.
What is really distressing her is that her files are missing.
She confided to the shrink about everything including me.
Personally it doesn’t bother me but she is scared it might fall into the wrong hands and bring up a lot of shit that she can’t handle.

I told her not to worry about it until it happens and I will help to look for this fuck and try to get back her files one way or another.
I told her to tell her GP to petition for the files and he is not allowed to share them with anyone else until she finds a new shrink to see.
I don’t like shrinks BTW and don’t get me going on Dr Phil.
Anyone who tells a person to leave their marriage without hearing both sides of the story is a quack.

There is nothing else I can do for anyone but be there to listen and be objective as possible.
Those who have talked to me can testify I am not a sympathetic ear but more of a cynical one.
I won’t condone what you do, I leave that for you to decide if it’s right but I will point things out to you that will make you cringe.
I have seen the cost of a broken heart.

My Ex’s cousin shot himself with a shotgun because his wife took the kids and left him for some guy on welfare because he was always there to keep her company where as her husband worked all the time.
She didn’t shoot him so it’s not her fault.
The guy on welfare left her when the insurance money ran out and now she is on welfare too.
Hard lessons just to fill a small void with big implications.

Here is the plan for your escape from limbo.
You’re not happy at home then confront the problem head on to look for a solution.
Silence only fuels the problem until it gets too big to handle.

Don’t listen to other people, listen to your heart and use your brain to make an HONEST decision.
Lying to yourself doesn’t help your situation you just carry that lie with you down the road like heavy luggage.

Get your shit together and secure your future on your own by yourself for you and only you.
The foundation of your life is only strong when you plant your feet on solid ground, NOT on someone else’s shaky shoulders.
Otherwise you sell yourself again to someone new.

I do my best not to judge people because I know I am only human myself and know what it’s like to need someone.
I know what it’s like to be betrayed and how that feels.
Guilt I don’t know because I don’t mess around when I have someone but I have felt the guilt of others.

All of this is avoidable but you have to make a stand to achieve it.
You have to adapt to the situation.
Going through all of this takes more energy than trying to fix the problem when it’s still small.
For every unhappy wife there is an unhappy husband.
Find out why and try and fix it but if you can’t at least you will both know why and this could be achieved without any outside influences.
Remember, this was once your best friend.
There is a lot more to loose than you realize.
Maybe you can salvage a friendship at least.
The biggest fear for both husband and wife is failure and that’s why they hold on for the wrong reasons.

Neither I or anyone else are the solution to anyone’s problems at home, only you know what that is deep in your heart when you are ready and brave enough to reach for it.
I promise it will hurt but it does get better.
I will protect my friend to the end, to preserve what she wants and that’s her family, I’m just the shadow of a doubt in her heart but mostly I am her friend who will always love her.

3am Thursday MSN goes off

Hi…..you there?
I am leaving my husband for someone I met; he said he loves me.

Yeah I ‘m here, let’s talk………..

All of this has been taxing for me to write and I still have to talk to the boys.
They are not happy about Plan A and may go through with Plan C anyway just to liberate the drug cabinet for the hell of it.
I tried telling them they are so old now they could just ask their doctors for pain killers and save going through all of that hassle.
This is what happens when you join and old gang at a young age.
By the time you graduate from beer to double scotches and the appreciation of nice big firm tits, they move on to Metamucil and the pleasures of saggy tits that drop in their laps with little effort.

Have a nice day

Walker