tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post7308333411649703482..comments2023-10-08T08:45:25.967-04:00Comments on Lost Here and Beyond: Another StrandWalkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00341478577481025783noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-5507905195632263872007-08-27T15:17:00.000-04:002007-08-27T15:17:00.000-04:00Very very sad. I am trying more and more as I get ...Very very sad. I am trying more and more as I get older to be as forgiving as possible. Holding onto grudges hurts the holder as well as the grudgee.Monogram Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201245389134780751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-18007424603072358952007-08-26T20:41:00.000-04:002007-08-26T20:41:00.000-04:00I never thought it was worth what it takes out of ...I never thought it was worth what it takes out of yourself to keep holding a grudge that long. I hope your Dad speakes to his sister before it is too late. I hope he doesn`t wish he did after it is too late. My mother had two brothers who hadn`t spoken in over 15 years over something stupid. They made my Mother very happy at her 90th Birthday party when she saw them talking to each other. <BR/> My husband stopped talking to all his family when he was about 14 and his mother died and no one in his family took him in and he was put into a foster home. His Dad had died before his mother did. My Father helped me locate his only sister way up in Plattsburg and my parents took us there. His sister mentioned a bro living in Buffalo, so my Parents drove us there, but we didn`t find him. Later after we married, I was able to contact them and by the time we had been married a few years, Walt was back talking to all his Bro`s and his sis. He was glad he had given in and forgiven them. They all died before he did as he was the baby of the family.<BR/> Sorry about your Aunt being so sick. I hope she gets the chance to try and make things right with your father so she can go in peace.Dotmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10223020957303815620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-65724933410334149062007-08-25T23:05:00.000-04:002007-08-25T23:05:00.000-04:00A very thought provoking tale Walker, I would want...A very thought provoking tale Walker, I would want to know when my time was up, not because I'm brave but I would like the chance to say goodbye to friends and family.<BR/>My father was the last of his generation when he died in 2001 and suddenly my sister and I were up very close to the top of the list of surviving family members.... a very sobering thought!!!!!!<BR/>A great shame if your fathers pride stops him reaching out to your aunt as her life ebbs away.Peterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835936655590583808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-2722477862269366532007-08-24T10:00:00.000-04:002007-08-24T10:00:00.000-04:00What a sad business. It's hard to imagine anyone ...What a sad business. It's hard to imagine anyone doing something so terrible as to warrant that treatment. I can't believe he closed the door in her face!! Pride can be so self defeating if not used wisely and I do hope that when the inevitable happens your father won't have to live with regrets over his stance. I could never live with all that anger and animosity in my soul. It would eat me up and destroy me. But then again I'm a sucker and that is my burden to bear.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339140046788925506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-63617364671349166842007-08-24T08:10:00.000-04:002007-08-24T08:10:00.000-04:00I was "disowned" by my brother for almost 5 years,...I was "disowned" by my brother for almost 5 years, and it sucked.<BR/>It was over something stupid, and our relationship has never been the same.<BR/><BR/>As bikercandy said, abuse and/or molestation are the only reasons I can see disowning a family member.<BR/>But friends? Well, i'm very much like you, when i'm done, i'm done.<BR/>There is no discussion, and there are NO SECOND CHANCES!<BR/>"Foll me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me".<BR/>So I don't put myself in that position of being made a fool of.<BR/><BR/>Great post Walker!BlazngScarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09240507708999563717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-43159893975927238072007-08-24T07:56:00.000-04:002007-08-24T07:56:00.000-04:00That's so sad about your aunt and your dad. I woul...That's so sad about your aunt and your dad. I would want to know if I was dying, to prepare, do and say last things, etc. When I married the first time, my dad would hang up the phone when I called the house for my mom. "I have no daughter" he would say. Yet we did reconcile when I was pregnant with my son.PBShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672893473413051922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-76584258448772961962007-08-23T18:32:00.000-04:002007-08-23T18:32:00.000-04:00I agree I would like to know as well. My mom didnt...I agree I would like to know as well. My mom didnt tell us girls and when we found out that she knew her time was limited we felt robbed. Of time we could have spent with her of the fact that she was sicker than we knew. She passed of Cancer as well.GABhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08933789582534204216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-24098977239446663362007-08-23T16:26:00.000-04:002007-08-23T16:26:00.000-04:00I just don't understand families sometimes. I kno...I just don't understand families sometimes. I know there are some things that are unforgivable, but they are few and very extreme. Things like molestation and abuse are unforgivable sins, even from family members. But beyond those two things, there is not much else I would disown a family member over. I hope your father comes to realize that life is short and he may regret not making peace with his sister before she goes. It sounds like he won't do that though if it's been 40 years already. <BR/><BR/>This is very sad, very sad indeed.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11924229513503448361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11706769.post-6071450563604927282007-08-23T13:56:00.000-04:002007-08-23T13:56:00.000-04:00It always amazes me what family can do to each oth...It always amazes me what family can do to each other in the name of "love" or the lack of it at times. I'm sorry for YOUR loss of an Aunt. We are quickly becoming the "older generation" and the best we can do is set a better example for the next generation.<BR/><BR/>Nice post, today Walker.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280822962202098606noreply@blogger.com